HAPPINESS - WHAT IS YOUR GAUGE, HOW DO YOU MEASURE IT?

" Happiness is a very personal, individual thing, and it is your responsibility to find out what that is for you and not give up till you achieve it." - RLM

If I am asked what do I want from life my answer is always this..." I want to be happy". But what does being happy really mean? Being happy is every persons God given right, yet it is something that eludes us a lot of the time. We are always happy when....when we get the dream house, when we get the dream job, when we get the dream car, when we get the dream partner, when we get the dream holiday or when we retire or when we have more money....when when when.....What about being happy now in this moment, no matter what that moment is, with no judgement, just acceptance.

Happiness for me is living without resistance. Having inner peace, feeling joy and loving life no matter what is happening around me, even if life is throwing lemons, I accept the sadness or upset and love it the same way I would joy in my heart and laughter. A real Zen ideal. It looks good in my minds eye and feels good in my heart, but it is constant practice, because it goes against everything that I was taught growing up. What I want from life has not changed for many, many years, but how I understand happiness has changed. The goal is still the same but how I achieve the goal has changed.

For me personally, happiness can only be achieved through personal growth, soul healing and self love, and in conjunction with practicing non judgement and non resistance. I didn't always see it that way, I used to believe that happiness was having my dream partner and having true love, someone to share my life with, and inner peace. My old formula for happiness put my happiness into someone elses hands and outside of myself, I was not taking responsibility for myself and that formula became a long road of good, hard life lessons, which got me to my new understanding. I certainly have no regrets, because I got an enormous amount of value from my previous understanding, but my formula has changed through that experience.

My gauge for happiness has changed through the years, and I think it will continue to change as I learn and grow and keep experiencing this human life. One thing I can say is if I look back on my life I can see how far I have come and that I am happier with every day that passes, and if I measure my happiness based on that then I am extremely proud and content with my progress towards my goal.

What makes you happy? Are you happy when or are you happy now in this beautiful moment? I would so love to hear what happiness means to you and is it a goal for you in your life to be happy? I look forward to hearing your thoughts, you can leave a comment below or email me at rosemariemoodley@gmail.com

With so much love
Rosemarie
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